Positive Affirmations- A Helpful Tool.

Positive affirmations are words we share with ourselves or others which communicate comfort and support. On the surface, positive affirmations seem easy to use and simple. But for those experiencing thoughts rooted in fear, shame, or insecurity, this practice can seem daunting or nearly impossible.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT, is one of the most common and effective types of therapy. CBT explores the relationship between our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. A common part of CBT includes identifying a person’s beliefs, often referred to as Core Beliefs. These Core Beliefs make up how a person views the world and themself. When traumatic or adverse experiences happen in life, our beliefs and sense of self can change in an instant. Positive affirmations are not treatment or cures, but rather tools available to help boost self esteem and improve thinking patterns.

Create a motto that works for you. Are there specific words that speak to you? Choose words that are meaningful and communicate value. I chose “worthy, strong, loved, powerful” because these words trigger a positive reaction in myself and directly challenge my negative thoughts and fears.

Practicing positive affirmations is something you can do alone, without anyone even knowing you are. However, it can also be an opportunity to learn more about someone and gain insight to their fears or insecurities. What would it be like to share your motto with a loved one? How might they respond and how would it feel to share?

For parents, it is an excellent tool to get children used to communicating beliefs about their developing sense of self. The Help (2011) had a fantastic scene where positive affirmations were practiced with a young child, watch the clip below.

I also included a fun video/song from YouTube that parents may find helpful in making positive affirmations a normal part of their child’s day.

Remember practicing positive affirmations is not a cure or form of treatment but rather a tool to use if you find yourself stuck in destructive thinking patterns. This practice allows us to extend compassion within ourselves, just as we would do for a close friend or family member.

Feel free to share your positive affirmations and thoughts in the comments!